It’s a New Time to Find Love

2017Happy New Year!

You should be back to work and into the swing of the New Year by now.  How is it going?  What are you doing that is new this year?  Will you be in the same place you were last year, as far as your love life?  I hope not!

Some of you are finally ready to meet the right person for you.

On Sunday I will be talking with my MEETING MR. RIGHT group members about using this time, this start to a new year, to your advantage.  January is the month that more people than ever decide to go online.  More people join gyms.  More people take classes.  Whatever it is they have decided they want to accomplish, they start NOW.

And you can use this to your advantage to meet more people.  Are you a member of a gym?  There are probably several new members this month – go and meet them.  Welcome them to the club.  Are you doing online dating?  Look at all the new men who have joined and send them a flirt/wink to welcome them.

Since it is cold, there may not be as much mingling and getting out, but that only means that there will be more people online and they will be staying longer online.  Upgrade your package or increase your online usage.  Talk to more guys online than you did before.

If you need help with your profile (and you do if you are not getting the kind of attention you want from the type of men you want), sign up for my Online Dating Profile Secrets Session HERE.  We will meet for a session to craft/change/edit/create your NEW and IMPROVED profile so you can finally start seeing success.

And the main thing is to be EXPECTANT.  Anticipate meeting some great men this year.  Expect to meet them.  Your mindset is key.  If you go into this year telling yourself that it will be no different than the rest, it won’t be!  You create your own destiny.  You make things happen, good or bad.  So BELIEVE that he is coming this year.  And get ready for him!

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006

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Where all the Black men are!


The biggest and most frequent question I get as a dating coach from Black women is WHERE can I find a good man?

Well…that is the million dollar question!  WHERE is the type of man that you like?  What are you looking for?  What do you need in a mate?  Where would that type of man hang out?  What kind of events does he attend?  What kind of organizations is he a part of?

Think on these things…

You are in luck this week if you are looking for a man that is professional and cares about the Black community.  He will be in town this week for CBC – the Congressional Black Caucus Annual Legislative Conference.  I used to think that CBC was just for politicians or activists, but upon attending my first ALC Conference, I realized it has a little bit for everyone.  From seminars on Cuba & Haiti to uterine fibroids to natural hair care to recidivism to Black Lives Matter, CBC has a little bit of everything and everyone (celebrities included!).

You may have missed the Flirting 101 class I did on CBC, but you are in luck!  I did a blogtalk show a couple of years ago on Meeting Mr. Right in Three Days or Less and I talked about meeting potentials at events, conferences and annual meetings, much like this one.  LISTEN HERE.  And CBC is one of the best places.  So if you have any vacation time, sick days or even an extended lunch hour, run by this Thursday or Friday and check out the scene.  And don’t forget the receptions that take place after the conference for fun and dancing.

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006

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How NOT to succeed at ONLINE DATING

virtually in love show

Have you seen the show “Virtually in Love” on the Oxygen Network?  I have watched two episodes and I must say it is online dating at its worst!

Here is the description of the show from before it began:

Oxygen is launching an unscripted series called Virtually in Love that centers on online daters traveling great distances to finally meet their significant others in person, Us Weekly can exclusively reveal.
The series, premiering May 24, will show the face-to-face introductions, followed by the ups and downs as the pairs learn more about each other and meet the other’s family and friends. The couples will then decide whether to continue dating in the same city to further their real-life connection.

The problem with the show’s participants is that they have waited months, some times even years, to finally meet in person.  In most cases they have been chatting online or via phone every day and feel like they are in love.  They have carried on a ‘virtual’ relationship and now they are finally meeting face to face.  In both episodes that I have seen, once they did meet and got to know each other better, the relationship fell apart.  In almost all of the cases each had held back some pertinent information about themselves.  That is very easy to do when you are only talking to someone via phone, chat or SKYPE for an hour.

In order to get to know someone well, you must spend quality time with them.  I am an advocate for dating online or meeting over the internet but it is just a MEETING.  You should not ‘date’ them over the internet.  I believe you should meet the person as quickly as possible to see if there is any chemistry IN PERSON.  If distance keeps you from being able to frequently meet up in person, that is OK.  Do not decide to become exclusive until you have met FIRST in person and confirmed your true interest (compatibility, chemistry, attraction).   If after that you want to continue the relationship and it has to be virtual, it can still work.  But long distance relationships are difficult and need to have specific perimeters, timelines and goals.

I am doing a FREE tele-seminar on Online Dating this Saturday to teach you how to be better at meeting the opposite sex online and to finally start getting the results you want.   One of my clients who got married last year (2015) met her husband online.  And another one of my clients who just recently got engaged and will be married this year also met her fiance online.

Online dating websites and dating apps definitely work.  But only if you know how to work them.  Join me on Saturday for tips and strategies.

Sign up on my homepage to participate:

Online Dating Secrets – Saturday, August 13, 2016 – 8AM – 8:30AM (you can listen later as long as you have registered)

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006



Ask Kiki – I want to break up but my family loves him…

runaway bride

As a dating coach I am often sent questions about specific love life situations that women are going through.  I have decided to post some of those here in my blog because I realize that many of YOU are going through similar issues.  I have changed the names to protect the identities of the parties involved.  Feel free to comment below if any of these situations resonate with you.

Question from Haley*:

Hi Kiki, This is very hard for me because I feel like my family is going to throw a fit when I tell them I want to break up with my boyfriend.  They think he is The One for me.  But I don’t.  I would like to see other people but I know everyone, including him, my parents, my brother and the dog (LOL) is going to be upset with me.  He is a nice guy and I understand that but I don’t love him. Everyone is hoping we will get married, except me.  What should I do?  Thanks.

Hi Haley,

Thank you for the question.  I will get right to the point.  Even though I recommend going out on a few dates with someone you are not initially attracted to see if any chemistry develops, I do not believe in continuing long-term with someone that you are not feeling.

Don’t marry him.  If you are not feeling it, it does not matter what anyone else wants.  Your parents, brother, dog, neighbor, etc. will not be the one in the marriage to him.  It will be YOU and him.  And if you are not down with this program, you need to let him know and stop wasting his time.  If he is open to backing up and seeing other people, do it.  But if he says it’s all or nothing, be prepared for your family to be confused and upset.  But they will get over it.

Now if there really is nothing wrong with him and the problem is YOU, we need to talk.  If you are always running from great guys and hooking with the guys who are NOT good for you, that is another story and we should work together to find out why you keep doing that and if you have some fears surrounding marriage/commitment.  You could be sabotaging yourself, as many women do.  That is what a dating coach is for – to help you navigate this thing called dating to get you to where you really want to ultimately be in your love life.

But if it is not you, move on from this guy.  Good luck with finding the One you do want to marry.  Keep me posted!



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How she met her husband


Hi Ladies,

I am doing a new series for my blogtalk show “Dating Talk with Kiki Strickland.”  For this series I am interviewing married women on how they met their hubbies.  I know many of you single ladies want to know HOW to find your Mr. Right and that is what I am here for.  In my coaching practice we figure out WHERE the type of men you want to date are and how to meet and start dating them.  I am there every step of the way to help you navigate the process from dating to engagement to marriage.

This new series will provide you with more knowledge on where and how YOU can meet your future mate.  It always helps to hear others’ stories, be inspired and know that it WILL happen to you next.

Listen to the first show HERE with owner of Caressence Therapeutic Massage, Mrs. Nichole Ruffin and how she met her husband Lewis on Saturday at 9AM.

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006


Meeting men while travelling


I just returned from a trip to Paris.  I LOVED Paris.  I am making plans to return next year so stay tuned for how you can join us!

While in Paris I met several men.  One I asked for directions and he ended up walking me half way to my destination, chatting and showing me photos of his family and their home in Morocco.  He was so nice that we ended up exchanging business cards.  We were expecting the French to be standoffish but were pleasantly surprised the people were so friendly.  Especially the men.  Two ladies on the trip with me got asked out on dates.  I want to talk about meeting men while traveling.

You should be meeting new people EVERYWHERE you go.  When you are open and friendly, people are drawn to you.  That should never stop.  Always be polite and cordial and make eye contact with those around you.

One of the women asked out while in Paris asked me what I thought.  Should she go?  And if so, should she take her friend with her?

I think it is fine to go out on a date while in another country!  Of course!  Why not?  As long as you are using wisdom (don’t ever get into a guy’s car or go to his place on the first date) and being safe, it is perfectly fine to meet him at a restaurant or cafe/coffee shop to find out more about him.  In the case with the woman on my trip, she could have brought her girlfriend along to the restaurant and her friend could have sat at the bar while they got a table and chatted.  It would not be kosher to bring a friend along on a date and let the friend join you.  But yes, the friend could have sat elsewhere until the date was over.  Then when the date is over, you leave with your friend, not the guy!

You never want a stranger to know where you are staying.  It is gentlemanly for him to offer to walk or drive you back but decline.  He can hail a cab for you or walk you to the subway, though.

Now some of you may be thinking, but if I am not interested in a long distance relationship, why would I go out with a man while I am travelling?  Because it is not your job to figure out if it would have to be a long distance relationship.  That’s his job.  If he likes you, he will have to figure out how to make it work.  You don’t know everything about him yet.  He may have a house or relatives in the States.  He may own his own business and be able to work from anywhere.  It is not your job to assume anything.  Just find out.  And that is what the date is for, to learn more about him.

Opportunities pass us by because we do not take advantage of them or recognize them. Or we sabotage ourselves by talking ourselves OUT of opportunities before they can really even materialize.  If he seems like a decent guy, at least commit to learning more.  Give him your email address so he can follow up with you when you return.

I know an American woman that met her husband while vacationing in London.  Now they both live here in the States.  He wooed her, found a job here in the US and proposed.  She was not open to dating him across ‘the pond’ so he found a way to make it happen for them.  When a man is in love, he finds a way!  They are now married with two kids.

We will be headed back to Paris next April, so if you would like to join us, send me an email to to find out more.  We are also going to Italy in 2017.  My retreats have thus far been domestic, but that may change, so check out my retreat page at

Happy Dating!

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006



Never beg a man to marry you

Some of you watch the Real Housewives of Potomac so you know who I am about to write about.  I just watched The Reunion Part 2 of the show and found out that Katie is no longer engaged to Andrew.  We all watched during the season as she hinted, harped on, prodded and poked Andrew about getting engaged.


Turns out that he DID propose at the end of the season, but by the time the reunion aired the relationship was already over.

I want to talk about this because as a dating coach with a program called “Married in 2 Years or Less” many think that I advocate rushing into marriage or trying to get the ring immediately or by any means necessary.  No way.  Not at all!  I was just as surprised by Katie’s behavior as the rest of you viewers.  While it is OK, of course, to want engagement and want to move into the next phase of your relationship, continuously asking your man or hinting you think it should happen doesn’t usually work well.

Here is what I believe and teach:  You only need to say things once.  And then if it doesn’t happen, you remove yourself.  Nagging never produces the results you really want.  I call my program “Married in 2 Years or Less” because I don’t believe you should DATE someone for longer than two years without the ring coming, if marriage is your goal and you are over 30.  If neither you nor your man feel like you two are the right fit by then, move on.  If you feel like you are the right fit but he doesn’t, move on.  More time does not usually convince him.  I believe you should say in the beginning of your relationship, such as when he brings up the two of you becoming exclusive, that you only believe in dating a couple of years at most before knowing if you want to make it permanent or not.  You should only say it then before the relationship really gets started so he knows up front.

Hopefully he realizes he has two years to get it together and propose.

But if he doesn’t…

Around the two year mark if he has not brought up getting engaged or looking at rings or anything like that, you can mention it one more time only.  You can say it even in a joking way, like “Hmmm…we’ve been dating almost two years.  I guess we only have three more months to decide on what we want to do.”

He may ask what you mean, if he has forgotten.  So you re-iterate that you don’t believe in dating for YEARS and YEARS and that if you two do not think you want to take the next steps after two years, maybe it means the two of you aren’t sure about each other.  Most women are afraid to rock the boat.  They are afraid that if they stick to their own time line, he will walk.  Or they are like Katie and start to wine and nag about getting engaged.  But if you take the more practical approach I have suggested, you can have a real conversation about where you both are.  If he is really in love with you, this will cause him to reassure you on his intentions.  If he is not (believe me, he already knows whether he wants to marry you or not), he will not want to talk about it or act indifferent or get upset.  Any of those answers means you will have to walk away before you waste any more time.

It is better to walk away than stay for a few more years with the same result.  Men know very quickly if they feel like you are the One or not.  They may not be ready for marriage despite knowing you are the One for them, but it is not your job to wait around until they get ready.  They tend to get ready quicker when you walk.

I hope it works out for Katie, either with Andrew or a new man.

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006