He’s been married TWICE before…!

wedding cake coupleI recently heard a woman say, “I’d rather stay single for the rest of my life than to be someone’s THIRD wife!”  She had just met a man that told her he has been divorced twice.

Be careful with statements like these.  It probably stems from your need for everything to be perfect, movie-like or fairy tale-like.  The reality is your future husband MAY have been married before.  And that is OK.

It is not a red flag that he has been married before.  The REASON that it did not work out, however, could be a red flag.

People get divorced.  Sometimes the fault is on one of them.  Sometimes it is both of them.

People learn from their mistakes.  Some men are BETTER husbands because they know exactly what they did wrong in their previous marriage.

You can have a preference on wanting someone who hasn’t been married before.  But I recommend never ruling out an entire category of people by saying “I will NEVER date” so and so.  Not wise.

You don’t know the package that your mate will come in.  You also do not know what he will have endured, gone through, suffered or overcome.  But he will be a great fit for you NOW, despite his past.  So give him a chance and don’t prejudge anyone.  Find out more before you decide anything.

That is all I am asking.  Ask the questions and see what you learn before you decide.

Check out this show I did a few years ago with a life coach that works with divorced men.  LISTEN HERE

And don’t forget, you are also not perfect.  Your guy will have to put up with and deal with your former mistakes, issues and areas.  But hopefully you have grown and matured from your past.  Give him the same courtesy.

Isn’t it time for YOU to find LOVE?  Join Kiki in her Married in 2 Years or Less Program.  Visit http://www.kikistrickland.com/program for more information.

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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797
a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006

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It’s a New Time to Find Love

2017Happy New Year!

You should be back to work and into the swing of the New Year by now.  How is it going?  What are you doing that is new this year?  Will you be in the same place you were last year, as far as your love life?  I hope not!

Some of you are finally ready to meet the right person for you.

On Sunday I will be talking with my MEETING MR. RIGHT group members about using this time, this start to a new year, to your advantage.  January is the month that more people than ever decide to go online.  More people join gyms.  More people take classes.  Whatever it is they have decided they want to accomplish, they start NOW.

And you can use this to your advantage to meet more people.  Are you a member of a gym?  There are probably several new members this month – go and meet them.  Welcome them to the club.  Are you doing online dating?  Look at all the new men who have joined and send them a flirt/wink to welcome them.

Since it is cold, there may not be as much mingling and getting out, but that only means that there will be more people online and they will be staying longer online.  Upgrade your package or increase your online usage.  Talk to more guys online than you did before.

If you need help with your profile (and you do if you are not getting the kind of attention you want from the type of men you want), sign up for my Online Dating Profile Secrets Session HERE.  We will meet for a session to craft/change/edit/create your NEW and IMPROVED profile so you can finally start seeing success.

And the main thing is to be EXPECTANT.  Anticipate meeting some great men this year.  Expect to meet them.  Your mindset is key.  If you go into this year telling yourself that it will be no different than the rest, it won’t be!  You create your own destiny.  You make things happen, good or bad.  So BELIEVE that he is coming this year.  And get ready for him!

If you want to be married in the next two years, contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006

 
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You’re CRAZY to date him!

Check out the new series from Dating Coach Kiki Strickland called “You’re Crazy to date Him!”essence-com-photo
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As a dating coach, I meet with women who are seeking to improve their love lives and finally meet the Right One, get engaged and start a family.  Over the years I have heard all kinds of stories.  One frequent story I hear from ladies looking for Mr. Right is that they have been wrapped up in a warped relationship with Mr. Wrong!
And sadly sometimes this relationship is with a MARRIED MAN.
They know this is wrong and that they should never have given him the time of day (unless they didn’t know that he was married initially, in which case they were fooled) but usually they are having a hard time ending the relationship with him.  In some cases they have been seeing him for YEARS.
And they realize on some level that being with him, or rather NOT being with him in the relationship that they want and need from a man, is one of the reasons that they have not been able to find the right man.
If there is any situation where you are crazy to keep seeing him, this is the one!
Here is what I say about you with married men:
– he had the nerve to give another woman YOUR ring and make a commitment to HER not you, then tries to come around you PART-TIME while giving her full-time love.
You are a secret
You get his leftovers
You don’t think highly enough of yourself to demand 1st place in a man’s heart
You have accepted second place
You believe in a man who has made lying a daily thing (to his family and to you.  Don’t think for a second that he is 100% honest with you about their relationship, he isn’t.)
Neither of you are being respected and cherished by him
You deserve better
To all the ladies that come to me caught up in a cycle with a taken man – whether he has a girlfriend or a fiance or a wife or he just won’t commit to you after all this time – I advise them to cut it off immediately.  The relationship has been a waste of precious time.
How can God bring you the gift he has for you when you are involved in the degradation of a marriage?  What room do you have for the man that is going to love and cherish you and commit to you when your heart is entangled with a cheater?  It does not end well.  End it now before it gets worse.
Once you set yourself FREE from that dead end relationship, you will come alive again, your spirit will soar, the blinders will be taken off and you will finally be on your way to true happiness with the RIGHT person.  Amen!
If you want to be married within the next two years, join me in my Married in 2 Years or Less Program at http://www.kikistrickland.com/the-program.
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Kiki Strickland

“Married in 2 Years or Less” Dating Coach

p: 202-718-7797 a: 1629 K St NW Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006

 

New Year’s Eve Flirting Tips

Group of friends celebrating new year   Original Filename: 84372820.jpgA client of mine went to a wedding recently in the Virgin Islands.  Turns out the couple had met at a New Year’s Eve party!  Yes, people will meet tonight all over the WORLD at galas, casino nights, parties and church services.  It can happen for you, if you are prepared and ready!!!

Here are some tips for you:

1 – Pick the right party.  Know what type of men you want to meet and go where they are going to go.  Be careful, though, about other people’s perceptions of parties.  Someone who didn’t meet anyone at last year’s party may complain about it being lame or full of old dudes but that may be because they focused on only the negatives.  Another person at the same party may have met guys their age and had a wonderful time.

That brings me to my next point:

2 – Put out positive energy no matter WHERE you go!  Even if it is true that the clientele where you end up is older that you are interested in, look for the younger people.  Don’t give up and sulk in a seat somewhere.  Younger men usually arrive closer to midnight, so dance the night away happily and be found enjoying yourself when they arrive, not looking bored or sulking in a corner.  Be friendly with all the men, even the older ones!  Keep smiling.

3 – Preparation – how you look and feel is going to play a huge part in the night.  When you get glamourous and love your dress, you walk taller, smile brighter and the endorphins are pumping.  You want to dance and have a great time.  If you are self-conscious about your dress or look or don’t feel you look your best, your whole night will be different.

4 – Talk to him!  There will be lots of men hanging around, dancing or eating.  Here are some conversation starters you can use if you are not great with flirting naturally (come to one of my Flirt Nights to get in the practice that you need!):

“How was your 2014?”

“What was the most exciting thing that happened to you this year?”

“What did you do last New Year’s Eve?”

“What are you plans for 2015?”

“What is the one thing that you have to do this year?”

It’s New Year’s Eve.  It is quite easy to talk about how the year was and all the things you want to do in the future.  No need for the regular boring small talk.  Keep the conversation centered around this special time.

5 – Ask Him to Dance – it is perfectly OK to pick out a guy who is alone or standing with a group of guys and single him out.  “Hey, want to dance?”  Don’t be afraid of rejection.  If he says no, on to the next one!  Maybe he can’t dance or maybe he has a girlfriend.  Nothing lost, but you were bold and took the initiative!  And if he says yes, great!  Just dance and let him do the talking.  You don’t need to do anything else but dance.  If he is interested, he will do the rest.

Wherever you are going tonight to celebrate, have FUN!  Dance with five guys, even if you have to ask them.  Talk to at least one guy in depth about his year and future plans for the New Year.

Decide for yourself that this coming year will be different for your love life and set out to make it happen!

Join us for a Flirt Night in 2015 to become a pro at flirting and meeting new men!  Click HERE for more info.

Happy Dating!

Still looking for The One? Contact me today!
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Kiki Strickland
Matchmaker & Dating Coach
 
“Country’s Top Matchmaker!” – EBONY Magazine