Last Saturday I began my Holiday Survival Guide for singles on “Dating Talk with Kiki Strickland.” Listen here.
That one was for singles who are seeing someone or in a new relationship (I also added a few tips also for those dating a while). I covered questions like should you get him a gift or invite him to your family’s Thanksgiving dinner if you have only been seeing each other a few months?
One thing I forgot to say is that if you have been dating a while, like a year or so, do not let other people’s comments about engagement get to you. For instance, well-meaning coworkers or friends may say things like, “I wonder what YOU are getting for Christmas? Possibly a RING???”
Or worse, they may grab your hand when you come back from Thanksgiving, checking to see if he put a ring on it.
People do not realize that that type of comment or question can be embarrassing for you. Don’t let it bother you or cause you to wonder/hope/dream that it will happen. If you two have not talked about engagement or moving forward, do not let the fantasies take over in your mind just because someone outside of your relationship suggested it may happen. They are not a part of your relationship. They may be stirring up a false hope. I have seen it cause resentment in women when their guy does not propose, or even arguments or her pulling away. The guy is usually clueless as to why. He does not know that other females (males do not usually make these kinds of comments) have put thoughts of a ring into her head.
Brush off those comments of others and enjoy the holidays with your guy.
Of course, if it HAS been a couple of years of dating and you ARE wondering if you two will move forward, you may want to purchase a podcast I did on “Getting to Engagement” so that you can be sure it is coming. You do not want several years to go by with the two of you still just dating.
I’m continuing on with Holiday survival for singles this Saturday only this time it will be for singles who are NOT seeing anyone right now. I will talk about how to handle family questions about your love life (or lack thereof) and avoiding the holiday blues.
“Dating Talk with Kiki Strickland” airs on BlogTalkRadio.com at 9AM on Saturday mornings. Subscribe at this link.